Marriage emerged much more recently with the patriarchy.The “Alpha Male” in human society who takes all is a myth.What most of us call “intimacy” is losing ourselves in another person so much that there is no distinct otherness anymore.The difference between fusion and differentiation.Losing ourselves in relationships is not healthy, even though we’ve been taught that it’s noble to throw ourselves on the sword for our wives and kids.You manage people and situations to avoid anxiety or feelings of worthlessness. It’s an anxiety and shame-based disorder.Borrowed functioning means your wellbeing depends on the happiness of those around you.Nice Guy Syndrome, at its core, is codependency.Glover divides his year between Bellevue, WA and Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. Glover is the creator of Dating Essentials for Men, the director of TPI University, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Washington. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men’s professional careers and intimate relationships. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life. If you have to give up anything that’s important to you to be in a relationship, it’s going to create a toxic environment.ĭr. Stop being a nice guy and start living true to yourself! He also explains why we need to get comfortable with our existential fears to become empowered men. He shows us how to reclaim our identities after losing ourselves in relationships. He talks about how to stop being dependent on external things for our happiness. Robert Glover is back on The Dad Edge for a discussion we all need to hear. Some of us might not even realize we suffer from Nice Guy Syndrome and wonder why we are anxious and unhappy.ĭr. We avoid conflict to get the acceptance, validation, approval, and even the sex that we need. We sometimes give only to receive in a passive attempt to get what we want without directly asking for it.

We are all probably guilty of Nice Guy Syndrome on some level. Many of us take pride in being the “nice guy.” But could being the nice guy be ruining our lives?

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